New romantics, yeah, that. And the main inspiration of this title is no other than my favorite song from Taylor Swift’s album 1989, precisely called “New Romatics”. And while writing this post, I’ve had the song in replay for a long time.
Anyway, recently, I’ve been wondering about many thing, and one of them has been my inexistent dating life. This sucks, I haven’t been on a date in years basically, and well… I can’t say much since I’m really shy for dating. Sound embarrassing but that’s how it is. I’m not that extrovert I usually come up as.
Dating apps such as Grindr or Scruff have been handy to me, and those are the places I usually meet guys at, it’s kind of the norm nowadays between men. And ironically, we kind of judge each other for using that app. LOL. It’s funny as f***, it just is. Hypocrisy bit much? Yeah, tons of it for sure.
As Taylor’s song says “We need love, but all we want is danger”, that’s one of the main things that come out of dating apps. It’s exciting to meet people and connect, but it’s also can be really dangerous to see in person anyone you meet online. I’ve been lucky with the few guys that I ended up seeing face to face, after getting acquainted online, especially on Grindr. One was a date, we talked for a while and that’s pretty much it; when it comes to that other one, well… he was just a sexual casualty, and let’s just leave it at that point since I don’t want to go in depth.
In the end, many folks no matter their age have a new way to stay connected thanks to technology. Internet dating sites have been booming constantly, especially in today’s world, where absolutely anything happens anywhere in the world and everyone can learn about it no matter where they are. Yes, it’s true that technology has made our lives much easier than before, there’s no denial on that. Now the thing for me is, why love has been so changed by it?
The whole technological revolution has led to many folks doing crazy stuff online, and doing crazy stuff online for love is also added into that mix. Posting declarations of love, commitments, announcing if you’re single or not on Facebook (I honestly don’t even care), announce if you’re engaged or if you broke up with your partner, and so on and so forth, it’s just becoming the thing. As our lives have become more exposed than never before, we need to do all kinds of things to try to fit in the best as possible. Life has just become much less private and much more public, all thanks to social media, technology and well, yeah, that. Y’all know exactly what I’m saying here!
Although I’m complaining about those things that people do, does not mean I’ve never been into that kind of behavior ever. I’m public with certain things but not necessarily everything, and after being stupid on social media as a naïve teenager, sure yeah do learn from your mistakes. Trust me folks, been there done that.
For me love, is magic. Something really magical. But for you to love someone else, you need to start by loving yourself, and that’s something I’ve been working on for basically, quite a few years, and because of that lack of self-love is probably the main reason why even though I try my hardest on meeting new people, I don’t easily click people too. I’m great at the whole texting thing but that face to face thing, well… it can be a bit of a problem.
In the end, this virtual world we live in, has made us loose a bit of touch with what’s real and what’s not. That’s something I totally need to learn, but as the old saying says, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. And yeah, that’s kind of the way these new romantics work.